Te Amo

“Có những thứ ta muốn mang đi nhưng phải để lại đó”

( “Cho những trái tim vẫn ở lại” - Nguyễn Phong Việt )

“Không ai biết mình hơn là nhà văn biết về bản thân mình … Không ai, ngoài ta, biết giúp ta. Nhà văn phải độc hành đi theo hướng mình đã chọn lựa. Nếu gặp duyên, hắn sẽ đến được đích, nếu không hội đủ được nhân duyên, thể tất hắn phải hi sinh. Nhà văn như kẻ đi săn, cuốn tiểu thuyết hắn cố gắng đạt tới, nó như một con thú dữ vừa nhanh nhẹn, vừa xảo quyệt. Có thể hắn sẽ chết trước khi đến được con thú nhưng cũng có thể hắn thuần phục được con thú dữ”.

( Nguyễn Xuân Khánh )

“Skating is multidimensional’.

( Vera Wang )

“Anh không thích phong lan nữa sao?”. “Không. Muôn hồng nghìn tía, chẳng qua cũng chỉ để nhìn trong chốc lát. Một đời tôi chỉ riêng nhớ hoàng lan”.

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Bất giác, tôi oà khóc. Nước mắt theo nhau lăn trên má tôi như ép cho hết những dòng tục luỵ cuối cùng. “Cứ khóc đi con” - Thầy vỗ về khi thấy tôi luống cuống che mặt - “Thầy chưa nghe nói gỗ đá thành Phật bao giờ”. Tôi nức nở: “Bạch thầy, thầy có cho con trồng cây Hoàng Lan không?”

Thầy bảo: “Cỏ cây vô tội, sao mình không thể bao dung?” Rồi một tay dắt tôi, một tay cầm túi cây đến bên góc vườn, thầy tự mình trồng xuống.

Tôi tưới cây bằng nước giếng chùa. Hoàng lan lớn lên, năm này qua năm khác, nở hoa vàng mong manh. Mong manh như tất cả những gì đẹp trên thế gian.

Tôi cầm lòng thôi thương, thôi nhớ.”

( “Thương nhớ hoàng lan” - Trần Thùy Mai )

“Từng cột cây số, lùi dần sau lưng cùng thành phố”

( “Ngày cuối tuần rực rỡ” - Đỗ Bảo )

“Em không hẳn là một hình bóng cụ thể. Em có thể là tuổi trẻ, là một điều tốt đẹp đang có hoặc đã mất, em là niềm đam mê, là thú vui đơn giản nào đó. Em có thể là tình yêu, hạnh phúc hoặc là cả một khung trời riêng.”

( “Khung trời buộc nơ” - Hoàng Anh )

“Người đàn bà thù ghét kẻ nào nhất? - Một ngày kia thỏi sắt nói với thanh nam châm: “Ta thù hận mi nhất trên đời vì mi cuốn hút ta, nhưng mi lại không đủ mạnh để lôi cuốn ta vào vòng tay mi”.”

( “Zarathustra đã nói thế” – Friedrich Nietzche )

“Ein Buch für Alle und Keinen”

( “Also sprach Zarathustra” - Friedrich Nietzche )

“Những giỏ hoa đong đưa trên cửa sổ

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Hà Nội thật thà, Hà Nội hư vô

Hà Nội thơm nồng tách cà phê buổi sáng

Hà Nội buồn thiu tiếng dương cầm đứt quãng

Hà Nội nhỏ hiền trôi trong gió miên man …

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Hà Nội nhỏ hiền trôi trên phố …

                                                    thênh thang”

( “Hà Nội” - Trong Veo )

“Đã bao giờ bạn bước ra sân ga, lên chuyến tàu đã chọn, cùng với hành lý mang theo.

Đã bao giờ, trên sân ga, bạn bước lên chuyến tàu đã chọn, với hành lý và có bạn đồng hành.

Đã bao giờ, trên sân ga, đúng phút chót, bạn không bước lên chuyến tàu đã chọn, có hành lý và có bạn đồng hành. Bạn lên một con tàu khác, chưa mua vé vì chưa một lần lựa chọn.

Đã bao giờ, trên sân ga, khi tàu chạy, bạn thấy thân xác mình đang khởi hành trên chuyến tàu bạn đã chọn, với hành lý và với bạn đồng hành. Còn chính bạn, mà không phải chính thân xác bạn, đang rời sân ga, trên một con tàu khác bạn chưa chọn một lần.

Đã bao giờ, trên sân ga, bạn-không-thân-xác-không-tâm-hồn, đang quan sát, chính thân xác bạn rời ga trên một chuyến tàu, còn chính phần hồn bạn, lại rời ga trên một con tàu khác.

Trên sân ga ấy, bạn sẽ thấy, tính bất phân định, của tâm hồn thể xác, trong cơ thể sống nhị nguyên.

Chỉ khi tách mình ra khỏi chính-mình để quan sát, bạn sẽ thấy chính-mình sụp đổ về thế giới thường ngày.

Như con mèo Schrodinger. Vừa đang sống mà lại vừa đang chết.”

( “Con mèo Schrodinger” - 5xublog )

“NFs – Idealist – INFJ, INFP, ENFJ, ENFP.

INFP – The Healer (The dreamer/idealist).

INFPs (Introverted Abstract Exploring Feelers) : I – Introver / N – intuition / F – feeling /P – Perceiving.

INFP Functions ( http://www.celebritytypes.com/infp.php )

1. Dominant: Introverted Feeling (Fi)

2. Auxiliary: Extroverted iNtuition (Ne)

3. Puerile: Introverted Sensing (Si)

4. Repressed: nExtroverted Thinking (Te)

“The Healer [lNFP]

To the INFP healing means mending those divisions that plague one’s private life and one’s relationships. It means treating oneself and relating to others in a conciliatory manner, helping to restore lost unity, integrity, or what INFPs call “oneness.” These Healers present a tranquil and noticeably pleasant face to the world, but while to all appearances they might seem gentle and easy going, on the inside they are anything but serene, having a capacity for caring not usually found in other types. Healers care deeply- passionately-about a few special persons or a favorite cause, and their fervent aim is to bring peace to the world and wholeness to themselves and their loved ones.

As a variant of Plato’s Idealists and Aristotle’s Ethicists, the INFPs are little different from other NFs in most respects. Like all the Idealists they are abstract in. communicating and cooperative in implementing goals. They want to learn about the humanities, are preoccupied with morale, and work well with personnel. In orientation they are altruistic, credulous, mystical, situated on pathways, and with their eye on tomorrow. They base their self-image on being seen as empathic, benevolent, and authentic. Often enthusiastic, they trust intuition, yearn for romance, seek identity, prize recognition, and aspire to the wisdom of the sage. Intellectually, they are prone to practice diplomacy far more than strategy, logistics, and especially tactics. Further, with their probing or exploring nature they lean more toward the Advocate’s informative role than the scheduling Mentor’s directive role. And because of their seclusiveness and reserve they seem to care more to be a Healer of conflicts than a people’s Champion. To visualize INFP intellectual development consider the following bar graph depicting the most probable profile of their diplomatic roles:

Healers have a profound sense of idealism derived from a strong personal morality, and they conceive of the world as an ethical, honorable place. Indeed, to understand Healers, we must understand their idealism as almost boundless and selfless, inspiring them to make extraordinary sacrifices for someone or something they believe in. They are the Shaman, Medicine Man, or Witch Doctor of the tribe, the Prince or Princess in fairy tales, the True Knight or Defender of the Faith, like Don Quixote or Joan of Arc. Isolated by their seclusiveness and infrequency (around one percent of the general population), their idealism leaves them feeling even more isolated from the rest of humanity.

It may be that Healers seek unity within themselves, and between themselves and others, because of a feeling of alienation which comes from their often unhappy childhood. INFPs live a fantasy-filled childhood, Idealist Role Variants-The Healer 159 which, sadly, is discouraged or even punished by many parents. With parents who require them to be sociable and industrious in concrete ways, and also with down-to-earth siblings who conform to these parental expectations, Healers come to see themselves as ugly ducklings. Other types may shrug off parental expectations that do not fit them, but not the INFPs. Wishing to please their parents and siblings, but not knowing quite how to do it, they try to hide their differences, believing they are bad to be so fanciful, so unlike their more solid brothers and sisters. They wonder, some of them for the rest of their lives, whether they are OK. They are quite OK, just different from the others-swans reared in a family of ducks.

Even so, Healers find it difficult to believe in themselves and to trust themselves. Deeply committed to the positive and the good, yet taught to believe there is evil in them, they can come to develop a certain fascination with the problem of good and evil, sacred and profane. They are drawn toward purity, but can become engrossed with sin, continuously on the lookout for the wickedness that lurks within them. Then, when they believe they have yielded to an impure temptation, they may be given to acts of self-sacrifice in atonement. Others seldom detect this inner turmoil, however, for the struggle between good and evil is within the INFP, who does not feel compelled to make the issue public.

In evaluating things and making decisions, Healers prefer to follow their intuition rather than logic. They respond to the beautiful versus the ugly, the good versus the bad, and the moral versus the immoral. Impressions are gained in a fluid, global, diffused way. Metaphors come naturally to them but may be strained. They have a gift for interpreting symbols, as well as creating them, and thus often write in lyric, poetic fashion. They show a tendency to take deliberate liberties with logic, believing as they do (and unlike the Rationals) that logic is something optional. They may also, at times, assume an unwarranted familiarity with a certain subject matter, believing in their impressionistic way that they “know all about that,” though they’ve never really mastered the details. They have difficulty thinking in conditional “if-then” terms; they tend to see things as either black or white, and can be impatient with contingency.

At work, Healers are adaptable, welcome new ideas and new information, are well aware of people and their feelings, and relate well to most others, albeit with some reserve. They dislike telephone interruptions and work well alone. They are patient with complicated situations, but impatient with routine details. They Carl make errors of fact, but seldom of feeling. The INFPs’ career choices should tend toward the ministry, missionary work, social work, library research, tutoring, child counseling, college teaching in the humanities-and away from business. They seem capable of applying themselves scholastically to gain the necessary training for professional work, and often do better in college than in high school. They have a natural interest in scholarly activities and demonstrate, as do the Plato’s Rationals are not only logical and contemplative, they are also usually absorbed in some enquiry, some investigation into complexity, some experimental probing into the nature of things. Perhaps this was why Paracelsus chose the mythical Sylphs to be their tutelary spirit. Sylphs were believed to live high above the ground, in forest canopies, and on mountain tops; they were cerebral spirits (much like the owl, who might have given rise to them), with their enlarged eyes which gave them penetrating sight, their oversized forebrain which gave them powerful reasoning, their sensitive antennae which gave them vivid imagination, and their gossamer wings which gave them access to places otherwise impossible to explore. Thus it was Paracelsus who first emphasized the insatiable curiosity and restless research of the Rationals.

Adickes spoke of Plato’s Rationals as “Agnostics,” for these people have their doubts about everything complicated. Despite all their rigorous logic, their studied contemplation, and particularly their probing empiricism, this type maintains a hint of uncertainty. With certitude so hard to come by, Rationals think it best to speak only of the possible and the probable. So it was Adickes who first touched upon one of the more puzzling features of the Rational character, their doubting nature.

In his intricately reasoned treatise on what he called different “forms of living” (translated as “types of men”), Spranger saw the Rationals, as did Plato, Aristotle, and Adickes, as rational, logical, and skeptical. But he focused even more closely on their penchant for theory building, calling them the “Theoretic” type. For the Rationals, to be sure, theory building is heady wine, one of the most fulfilling operations that tests and measures the mettle of their intellect.

Kretschmer, the first investigator to look carefully at the dark side of character, called the Rationals the “Anesthetics” which roughly translated means “unfeeling.” In thus speaking of them he was echoing Galen, who had said that they are distant and detached, but Kretschmer was saying more than this. He believed that if and when life’s problems get the better of them, Rationals, like the other three types, have no choice in which kind of absurd behaviors to use in their self-defense, their temperament alone deciding the matter.

Like Kretschmer, Fromm examined both sides of personality, presenting negative as well as positive traits of character. Fromm considered the Rationals to be “Marketers,” thinking of marketing (or pragmatic transacting) as a negative trait, while he lauded them for their efficiency and other desirable traits. Thus in his view Rationals are not only “efficient,” they are also “adaptable,” “curious,” “experimental,” “farseeing,” “flexible,” “generous,” “intelligent,” “open-minded,” “purposeful,” “sociable,” “tolerant,” “undogmatic,” “witty,” and “youthful.” It would appear that Fromm, probably a Rational himself, thought better of them than the other types.

Myers contributed to the study of the Rational personality by naming them the “Intuitive Thinking” types-“NTs”-and saying of them that they are “abstract,” “analytical,” “competent,” “complex,” “curious,” “efficient,” “exacting,” “impersonal,” “intellectual,” “independent,” “inventive,” “logical,” “scientific,” “theoretical,” “research-oriented,” and “systematic.” Though apparently unaware of the contributions of her predecessors, she was clearly able on her own to identify the more salient traits that characterize Plato’s Rationals.”

( “Please understand me II” - David Keir )

http://www.keirsey.com/4temps/healer.asp

“Long ago, when she was a very little girl, she learned there are many magical things one can do when happiness is slowpokey, and most of those things involve moving around, flying here and there, but mainly - change.”

( Linda Goodman )

“The natural, silent feeling of closeness following sexual union contents her, and gives her a feeling of completeness. Why gild the lily?

together, they can teach each other how well these two needs blend, and she’ll awaken, through his tenderness, to the childhood dreams and innocence she lost through the premature growing-up all experience - while he’ll gradually forget his painful memories of the past, as she gently replaces them with warm and loving images for tomorrow’s remembering.

After a while, they can even read one another’s thoughts, so closely attuned can become, throughout their years of togetherness.”

( Linda Goodman )

“You are the call and I am the answer.

You are the wish and I the fulfillment.

You are the night, and I the day. What else? it is perfect enough. It is perfectly complete. You and I.”

( “Bei Hennef” - D.H. Lawrence )

“Một nơi tận cùng thế giới
Mà từng giọt nước mắt biến thành những nụ cười
Một nơi tình yêu dẫn lối
Từng chặng đường dài kết thúc in dấu chân hai người.”

( “Two against the world” - Lil Knight )